Transforming Unhelpful Core Beliefs

by Beth

Egg by Melina Meza

Oh, the crazy things we believed as children. My friend Laurie fell off a swing while hanging upside down. She fractured her sternum, spent weeks with a taped chest, and for years believed she would never grow breasts. I believed that in order to get married, I would have to go door to door in my neighborhood to find a husband. One of my son’s childhood friends would not eat bread crusts because a neighbor told her they were baked worms.

Beliefs can be defined as thoughts we hold to be true even though we don’t have proof. When proof appears, beliefs become knowledge. Fortunately for Laurie, my son’s friend, and me, time and knowledge proved our childhood beliefs false. Even so, the emotional attachments to some beliefs defy knowledge and can have an impact on our lives as we age. Laurie did grow breasts but the emotional attachment to that accident left her uncomfortable inverting or hanging upside down in aerial yoga class.

Some core beliefs we hold are helpful and productive but others are not. For example, I believe that asking for help is a sign of weakness. I know this is not true but the emotional attachment to that belief results in responses like "Thanks, I got this," when unsolicited offers of help come my way. I can trace it back to watching the women in my family seemingly "do it all," alone. The key word here, as you may have guessed, is “seemingly.” The women in my family could have used help but I never saw them ask for it. Why? I can guess but I don’t know. They’ve passed on and I can’t ask them. But I’m left dealing with an emotional attachment to that belief (fear of dependency), which still impacts my behavior and quite possibly my emotional health.

It’s our emotional attachments to these core beliefs and our reactions to them that cause distress and discomfort. However, once we become aware of a counter-productive core belief and recognize the emotional attachment, we can take steps to transform it.

One helpful way of promoting healthy thinking comes from Patanjali’s Yoga Sutras: pratipaksha bhavanam. Joseph LePage, Director, Integrative Yoga Therapy, says that pratipaksha bhavanam is the “redirection of negative thoughts to positive ones.” Another interpretation comes from Gary Kraftsow’s American Viniyoga Institute:

Patanjali says if you have negative thinking that comes from anger, greed, or delusion, whether you’re actively in it or just thinking about it, the fruit will be unending suffering and ignorance. Therefore, “Pratipaksha bhavanam:” Take another view, reframe your perspective on the situation. Sutra [2.34]

To practice pratipaksha bhavanam, we need to recognize that one or more core beliefs may be impacting the balance of our lives in a counter-productive way. Next we can select a positive thought, intention, or resolve, and find ways to use it. We can write it down and tape it to the fridge or bathroom mirror so it’s visible every day. We can repeat it often, silently or out loud, as we move through our yoga practice, and we can keep it mentally handy every time we find that counter-productive core belief rising in the mind. Over time and with practice, the emotional attachment will gradually lose its charge and its power, enabling us to transform an unhealthy reaction into a positive, productive response.

Here are a few counter-productive core beliefs and suggested bhavanas to transform them:

Core Belief/Bhavana (Positive Resolve)

1. I can’t trust anybody/I trust myself
2. I’ll never be happy/I enjoy my life; I’m content
3. I’m too different/I am unique – how cool is that!
4. I don’t belong/I attract the right friends
5. I’m too old to (add your words here)/ I’m young at heart and I can (add your words here)
6. I’m too (fat, skinny, ugly etc.)/I love and accept my body

In my case, I need two bhavanas.

1. I ask for help when I need it.
2. I accept help when it is offered.

This practice requires discipline, patience, and consistency but the juice will be worth the squeeze because as we reduce emotional attachments to counter-productive core beliefs, we can better manage our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. 

Do you have a core belief that needs to be transformed?

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Cultivating the Opposite: Yoga Philosophy for Healthy Eating, Healthy Aging

by Nina

“People in America are addicted to sugar, and to fat and to salt,” he says, and as a nation, it’s holding us back. “Food is intensely pleasurable, and people are afraid that if they change the way they eat, they’ll stop having pleasure.” —Jan. 17, 2013 interview on NPR with John Mackey, co-CEO of Whole Foods

This morning, as I was helping Baxter prepare for his workshop on Yoga and Healthy Eating at the upcoming Yoga Journal Conference, he told me he was struck by this quote from my interview with my friend Elizabeth D, who lost 50 pounds and learned how to eat a diet that suited her particular body:

“I also changed my perspective by viewing eating healthy and exercising as a way to do something positive for myself, not something to dread.”

Baxter went on to say that this was a form of “pratipaksha bhavanam,” which Patanjali recommends in the Yoga Sutras.

II.33 Upon being harassed by negative thoughts, one should cultivate counteracting thoughts. —trans. Edwin Bryant

The Sankrit words “pratipaksha bhavanam” from the original text of this sutra literally mean “cultivate the opposite” (or “cultivate counteracting thoughts” in Bryant’s translation). That’s what Elizabeth did when she said she changed her perspective about how she viewed healthy eating; she contemplated her original view and then consciously took another one. That reminded me of an interview I heard this morning with John Mackey, co-CEO of Whole Foods. He talked about, among other things (most of which I do not agree with, but let’s not go there right now), why Americans have trouble with unhealthy food addictions. He said that people “are afraid that if they change the way they eat, they'll stop having pleasure” and recommended they take the same approach that Elizabeth took, changing to a different perspective, in this case, that healthy food is as pleasurable as junk food. So that’s our thought for the day about yoga for healthy eating: use Patanjali's yoga philosophy to change your thinking about the way you eat.

Seattle Garden (A Detail) by Joan Webster

But, of course, Patanjali wasn’t talking about healthy eating in the Yoga Sutras. He was addressing  a much more all-encompassing subject, which is that negative thoughts can lead us away from the behavior specified in the yamas and the niyamas—including non-violence, non-stealing, non-greediness, and truthfulness—which is necessary to achieve the equanimity that is yoga. For example, thoughts about violence can lead to acts of violence. Here’s the next sutra:

II.34 Negative thoughts are violence, etc. They may be personally performed, performed on one’s behalf by another, or authorized by oneself; they may be triggered by greed, anger, or delusion; and they may be slight, moderate, or extreme in intensity. One should cultivate counteracting thoughts, namely, that the end results of negative thoughts are ongoing suffering and ignorance.  —trans. by Edwin Bryant

Again, Patanjali recommends “pratipaksha bhavanam” or “counteracting thoughts” in this sutra. As Edwin Bryant says, “For example if any aspiring yogi experiences feelings of dislike for a person, which is a type of himsa, violence, then, upon becoming aware of this feeling, the yogi can make the effort to think of the person in a nonviolent fashion, perhaps viewing him or her as simply an embodied being who is victimized by the gunas and karma, etc. and ultimately as a pure purusa soul.”

How does this tie into healthy aging? Spending less time in the grip of negative thoughts, especially anger, and thereby avoiding negative interactions, will obviously help reduce stress and stress-related diseases. And the ability to re-frame our perspective on a situation is a valuable method we can use to reduce the klesas, the five afflictions I discussed in my post The Pains Which Are To Come. Edwin Byrant likens negative thoughts to weeds in a garden:

“As in a garden, the more one makes an effort to uproot weeds, the more the bed will eventually become a receptacle for fragrant flowers, which will then grow and reseed of their own accord until there is hardly any room for the weeds to surface.”

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